Saturday, February 20, 2010

Staying Connected - Learning Through Kids' Games

In 2008 I was teaching a Vacation Bible School in one of the churches in the Chicago Suburbs.  I want to briefly share something that I learned on the 1st day that I saw kids playing games.

It was about friendship knots. We form a circle of 4 or 5 people. Hold the hand of the person not next to you but one after the next, i.e. of every other person. The fun part is then to twist in and out of the circle, up and down within the radii of hands, jump, and come out without letting go of anyone's hands - that way untangling is easy!

This is how at times, in life we hold on, and how in turn need to reach out to one another. The thing that I learned as they played the game was: Holding on, not letting go, and yet the goal is to sort out the tangles within. We did a great job many times again and again, and I thought if only we as adults could learn to untangle our messes with each other and our friends without letting go of our hands -without losing our connections with each other, by our love the world will know that we belong to Christ.  Biblically speaking..isn't this what we are called to? Relationships will improve our communities and the world because while being connected we choose to untangle the messes...sort out differences as they come. 

Please note this does not mean that we put up with the abuses in any relationship. In manipulative, abusive relationships, and where powerplay is present distancing is a safe and healthy thing to do. No one is to impose any forgiveness, reconnection, or reconciliation aspect on anyone. We need time to heal and be safe. 

The connection and untangling are meant for a non-abusive and mutually beneficial relationship where talking about differences in a healthy way is possible and there is an understanding that we can agree to disagree and mean no harm. 

Stay connected,

Kalpana Christian Sharma(Mrs.) Copyright © KC's Writings 2010

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

What Can We Do Without? Simple living.

Having lived in Nairobi, Kenya, East Africa, for many years, and having worked in the air travel industry, camping was a part of life that we all enjoyed. Camping experience reminds us of the things that are temporal.

Few months back, I was pondering on this thought even as I saw my daughters' backpacks; from time to time they go for their youth camp trips. I  learned that for preparing to go on a camping trip, we usually make a list of what we must carry with us and quite rightly so; but when you flip the coin and see the other side of it, at times, a thought crosses my mind, its not "what I must take with me but what can I really do without?" matters. Have you ever made a list of what can we do without? it would be a great checklist. Authentically speaking, there is a lot of stuff that we can really do without.

So now if we focus on that thought and did the same thing with our daily living, and while making a list of what we must buy, what if we make a list of things that we really don't need and can do without? I guess in these days of hard economy that would be a great way to live life with contentment, look at life, and praise GOD in ALL circumstances..always rejoicing as Paul says.

So where is our identity? is it in the stuff that we own? or the cars we drive? the homes we live in, the latest electronic device that we possess? or the community we associate with? 

Someone has said, 'We buy things we don't need to with the money that we don't have, to impress the people we don't know." May I dare to add, "and we incur debts that we sometimes seldom recover from?" One kids' song from A Kiddie-Viddie video song series says, "Little is much if God is in it" and 1 Timothy 6:6 reminds us. "Godliness with contentment is a great gain."

I dare to add to this quote from a great Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore that was reiterated in one of the Hindi movies, "Bawarchi: "It is so simple to be happy but it is so very difficult to be simple."

Would you give simple living a try?

Kalpana Christian Sharma (Mrs.)
Copyright © KC's Writings 2010

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Love - from a perspective

This writing is from the year 2006
Wish you a very Happy Valentine's Day... a day that the world celebrates as what it knows as love..

I read that "In the game of tennis, 'love' means nothing, in a relationship, love means everything."(Harold Sala)

I am amazed as I read the 1st Corinthians chapter 13, "the love chapter", saying, so profoundly that if you have all knowledge and are all in all, and are full of power, and all that you can think of, and if we give up our bodies to be burnt up for what we stand up for, and even if we are so kind even to give all our goods to the poor, but IF we have no love... WE ARE NOTHING... 

ouch!!!! that is so powerful.

and in the end, it says, now abide these three, faith, hope, and love but the greatest of these is love...

I am also learning that love is a CHOICE rather than a feeling...we choose to love. 

I am glad that there is one day we can celebrate (though it should be an everyday event) but just one day set aside to acknowledge and express Love.

so, we need to "LOVE THE LORD OUR GOD WITH ALL OUR HEARTS, WITH ALL OUR SOULS, WITH ALL OUR MIGHT AND WITH ALL OUR STRENGTH AND LOVE OUR NEIGHBORS AS OUR SELVES!"

"Beloved, let us love one another, for the love is of GOD and every one that loveth is born of God and knoweth God, he that loveth NOT, knoweth not God for God is love"...1st John four seven and eight...

Kalpana Christian Sharma (Mrs.)
Copyright © KC's Writings 2010

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Humbling before God and learning from HIM..

These are some of my old writings that lift me up at times when I read, and I want to encourage readers as well. This was written on October 15th, 2005---

The Bible says, "Humble Yourselves under the mighty hand of God that in due time, he may lift us up." (higher and higher and he will lift us up) You and I have sung this chorus many times but recently I understood that in today's fast-paced world where success counts and being aggressive and being numero uno/#1 is the deal, the self that is so glorified comes in between us and God, as that self is so much against God! Even pride dresses up as false humility. 

While with God, humility is what counts. The Bible says God inhabits eternity, (can you imagine that? eternity?) and yet, (watch this) He lives in the hearts of those who are humble!

I also learned that it says to humble Yourself. God expects us to humble ourselves before He brings circumstances to humble us.

The qualification to come to Jesus is "all who are weary and with heavy burden...come to me and I will give you rest..." Isn't this qualification different? I mean the world looks at your resume, your success, your ability what you can boast about 'you'!! while Jesus says, come as you are, with your inadequacy...with your heavy yoke..' As I heard someone preach, "Ground is always leveled at the foot of the cross!"

It has been a long since I played my guitar. This week, after many years, I picked up my guitar, and in the quietness of hours, I played this chorus. I have sung it many times but singing it alone, not to anyone but to GOD, tears rolled down my cheeks as I sang with the meaning, humbling myself before God....that led me to sing this lovely hymn, I know it will bring tears to your eyes as you sing alone before God! Please take a few moments to sing and ponder upon the words written by Benjamin M Ramsey in 1919 as follows:

"Teach me Thy way O Lord! Teach me thy way, Thy gracious aid afford, teach me thy way, help me to walk aright, MORE BY FAITH, less by sight, lead me with heavenly light, teach me thy way.

When doubts and fear arise, teach me thy way, when storms overspread the skies, teach me thy way.
Shine through the clouds and rain, through sorrow, toil, and pain, make thou my pathway plain, teach me thy way.

When I am sad at heart, teach me thy way, when earthy joys depart, teach me thy way,
In hours of loneliness, in times of dire distress, in failure or success, teach me thy way...

Long as my life shall last, teach me thy way, where ever my lot be cast, teach me thy way..
until the race is run, until the journey is done, until the crown is won... TEACH ME THY WAY..."

Have a blessed Lord's Day tomorrow!
Kalpana
Copyright © KC's Writings 2010

Friday, February 12, 2010

Cross of Christ - 2

While I ponder about the Cross of Christ, 'the sacrificing pole' that we are commanded to carry daily and follow Jesus, I am reminded of a great truth learned from a gentle, Brahmin, Hindu family in Nairobi, Kenya, who owned a confectionery (an Indian sweet shop);  we would talk about religion when we visited their shop.

This was in the 1980s when Dad used to tutor their ready-to-go-to-college son in Physics and Mathematics. Dad and I used to witness to this family about Christ. One day they shared with Dad, saying "Do you know why we really adore the Cross of Christ so much? The reason being - the Cross of Christ shows you to deny the 'I' and self." They so simply showed the crossing out of the vertical line from top to bottom by the horizontal line from left to right! That means he said, No to the big 'I', the selfish I... without making it an idol, have you tried to draw a cross and see how much of I and selfishness we are called to cancel out?

I know some theologians will disagree with me that Christ did not die on the cross but on the pole, on a tree, yes that is true, but the Cross is widely known today as the symbol of Christianity. Without making it an idol or a statue, or like fascinating stuff that most movie stars and singers wear on their necks and ears, can we use the available resources, anything and everything to talk of his torturous death. 

Lord, help me to love you with ALL my heart, all my soul, all my strength, and all my mind...to crucify me, my self, and 'I' daily, on the sacrificing pole that I am to carry and to let the beauty of Jesus shine through me...

Kalpana Christian Sharma

Copyright © KC's Writings, 2010

Cross of Christ- 1

Have you ever wondered, if the word 'cross' has different meanings in the English language? There is a crossing cross, a plus sign cross, an x letter cross, a cross of Lorraine, or a term used as cross my heart (promise to give) or someone being cross with us.  Here I am talking about the Cross of JESUS Christ that the Bible talks about. Recently a lady belonging to a Jehova's Witnesses denomination pointed out to me the real meaning of that cross translated into my own mother tongue, Gujarati language from the State of Gujarat in India. The cross means 'Vadh-Stumbh' the literal meaning 'The Pole of Sacrifice' - the Cross of Jesus as used in the holy Bible in Gujarati language. I was surprised with joy even though it is my mother tongue and I grew up with it, little had I paid attention to that. The reason? At this grown-up stage, I am trying to comprehend that Jesus calls us to carry our Pole of Sacrifice and follow him...to put it in easier terms like the famous Indian movie would have its heroes and brave folks say in lines such as..."Sir pey Kafan bandh key chaltey hey"(we walk carrying the coffin cloth on our head, meaning we are ever-ready to die).

I asked myself, Do I carry my Cross, my pole of Sacrifice, and live like that for CHRIST every day? It is a big question! We are called by Him to do that. Denying self and following him; being a living sacrifice as Romans 12 says!

Vadh-stumbh (Vadh no Stumbh) the pole of Sacrifice! To die to selfishness and sin, to comforts that call my name, the fun and cultural values, TV and movies that allure us; to die to that, to die to be the person who is totally in charge and in control, and let God be the King and in charge of our lives, and help us handle all aspects of our life HIS way! To die to prestige, fame, and what more than a line from one of Issac Watts' songs that goes like, "When I survey the wondrous cross on which the price of Glory died...Forbid it LORD that I should boast, save in the cross of Christ my LORD, all the VAIN THINGS THAT CHARM ME MOST, I SACRIFICE THEM TO HIS BLOOD...(carry our vadh-stumbhs and follow him...) like Paul says, I must decrease and HE must increase in me!!

LORD Jesus, Help us carry our vadh-stumbhs (poles of sacrifice) and follow you.

Kalpana Christian Sharma
Copyright © KC's Writings, 2010

Job and his honorable behaviour towards women- just like Lord Jesus'

Job 42: 12 "So the LORD blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning: for he had fourteen thousand sheep and six thousand camels, and a thousand yoke of oxen, and a thousand she asses. He had also seven sons and three daughters. And he called the name of the first, Jemima; and the name of the second, Kezia; and the name of the third, Kerenhappuch. And in all the land were no women found so fair as the daughters of Job: and their father gave them inheritance among their brethren. After this lived Job a hundred and forty years, and saw his sons, and his sons' sons, even four generations. So Job died, being old and full of days."--

I have read the book of Job's many times and every time I see something new and exciting. This time I saw how wonderfully he treated women; his wife, his daughters, and other women. Even though many folks in many cultures look down on women and do not treat them justly, we see a difference in the above scenario from the ending chapter of Job. Many people say that in the old cultures, women were not treated well, as true as that is, I also see that there are recorded scenarios in that few godly, respectful men did treat women well. By all means, I am for the biblical womanhood that is submissive to God's Word and strong and that is why I want to support women to continue to trust God despite what the cultures, communities, and general attitudes dictate to them, putting women down merely because they are women. It is not news for anyone to know that especially in India many girl children are aborted merely and ONLY because the parents and families wanted a boy and the pregnancy reveals that the child is a girl. In my childhood, I heard stories of newly born girls that were drowned in the milk while being bathed. Because we have seen and witnessed daughters being mistreated or made to feel like second-class citizens compared to their sons, we take a stand for girls!

Well, let me say in this current century, my family and I have had an opportunity to attend some huge baby showers where men, women, and children were all present as some of these functions are attended by huge crowds on a social note (nearly a few hundred!) We witnessed something that has remained in my memory. We firmly believe that there should NOT be any biased view or difference of opinion when it comes to welcoming whoever the new child God chooses to give. It is by divine good choice. But during one of the interacting sessions, the master of the ceremony asked a question to all seated. Now mind you these are all living in the 21st century, high upper class, good-looking, 'nice' families and we would 'expect' them to welcome and treat a boy or a girl with the same equality mindset. Sadly, when she asked a question to raise hands to indicate how many thought and hoped that our pregnant friend would have a boy, a super great number of hands went up with lots of hurrahs! This was her first child. But the surprising thing to note was when she asked a question how many would think and wish that it was a girl! None raised their hands or hurrayed except the four of us (my husband, our two daughters, and I). So yes, even in today's culture a lot could be desired in the area of respect and acceptance of a girl child and/or genuine respect for women in general.

My pastor's wife back home in Nairobi shared with me that one day a man refused to take a ride that she offered purely on the basis that it was from a woman and he would not accept a ride from a woman, regardless of how desperate he was. And as recent as now, a husband to a friend of mine in this era and decade here would not accept a ride from a female driver, even today. I do not even need to mention that he does not treat his wife or daughter respectfully. There are cases of friends/relatives who have been bottled up in fear so they do not want to learn to drive at any cost. 

In many cases, one can see that often religion is also used to put women in a different category. Once, a counseling believer lady friend pointed out to me that, "Spiritual abuse is a worse humiliation when people misuse Scriptures to make women feel inferior. These women should be encouraged to read God's Holy Word and discern what the deep genuine heart of God the Father really is about, especially when it comes to His daughters!"

When GOD restored all to Job, notice how the Bible records it. He had seven sons and three daughters. Now see how much of info is given on daughters compared to info on his sons, in the culture that looked down on women. This is the biblical womanhood that I am talking about. Straight from the Father's heart. Job displayed what God would do. The names of his daughters are given, their beauty is praised, and the inheritance given along with their brothers is recorded. They are co-heirs with the sons and that is precisely how JESUS treated women and spoke of them in his sermons and preaching. He honors women and offers them the same eternal inheritance. 1 Peter 3 talks about wives being co-heirs of grace.

One of the many things recorded shows God in Job's life and His character is displayed well. Notice, that this man Job honored women and their purity. He said in Job 31: 1, "I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?" To Job, women were not an eye-candy, objects, or just a child that needed to be raised! No! Job in line with honoring God, honored God's girls similarly. 

Job respected his own wife by not deceiving her, or betraying her faith. He honored other women and treated them as valued daughters of God, and he treated his own daughters equal to his sons and as precious gifts from God!

Women of God, our GOD is a God of compassion, and equality, contrary to what any culture imposes on us or wants us to believe or however they treat us. Like Dr. Erwin Lutzer's book title reads, "JESUS, lover of a Woman's Soul", you can read in the Bible how Jesus treated women and how He cares for us even today and knows how we feel; He encourages, supports, and empowers.

Recently, I read on a blog that restated how Jesus used a poor old widow's offering of 2 mites to challenge the most learned and wealthy congregation, how he used a despised and stoned woman to show the sin of their own hearts and hypocritical attitude! In a culture where women's testimony was not even counted as valid, Jesus revealed himself in his resurrected body to women followers. (Many women witnessed this firsthand!) Jesus entrusted these godly women with the huge task of telling this historical event to others. Jesus' earthly ministry was funded by a group of women who supported it from their own meager earnings. He used a persistent widow's pleas to teach a lesson to his disciples to continue to pray. On three different occasions, women anointed Jesus with the most expensive perfumes and each time he had something awesome to talk about these generous women. One was a "sinner" who came crying and he forgave her many sins and taught a lesson to the host, Simon the leper. Six days before Passover it was the Mary of Bethany anointing Jesus in her home where she lived with Martha her sister and her brother Lazarus who was raised from the dead. Then two days before an unknown woman came to anoint Jesus and even though the disciples were indignant, Jesus clearly stated to leave her alone because she had done a beautiful thing, and that wherever the gospel was preached what she did would be told in memory of her. During his journey through Samaria, He opened up a spiritual conversation with a woman who had had 5 husbands. Jesus made sinners feel welcomed enough to come to him but uncomfortable enough with sin within, uncomfortable enough that they confess sins, repent thereof, give up those sins, and accept his forgiveness - making a 180-degree turn in life. And he offers hope and strength to live a pure and holy life.

Learn from Jesus to maneuver your heartache, your pain that no one even cares to know. His life empowers and sets us free to live as a victor in a culture that makes us feel like a victim! 

Copyright © KC's Writings, 2010/edited in April 2013.
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