Saturday, October 22, 2011

confident, yet silent....

silence due to indecision is different than being decisive yet choosing to be silent, that is confidence! -k

copyrighted...kalpna chrsitian sharma


Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Reading and learning from the weak Fathers' roles in the old times

I have been reading the book of 1st Samuel in the Bible and its interesting to note that Eli the priest was a godly man but he failed in his role as a diciplining father. Twice God sends a message, 1st that 'he honored his sons more than God and did not rebuke them' and 2nd time He talks to young Samuel that 'Eli knew the problem and failed to restrain his sons.'

His sons were perverting justice and did not walk in the ways of the LORD. Even though just few verses before, we see that Eli is 'gently rebuking' the sons, it does not work by now as the Lord has decided to put an end to the roles Eli's family will be playing. His family is rejected and severe punishment from the Lord fell on Eli's household of male dying in the prime of life; and if they survived they would be not straight forward.

More interesting thing is that inspite of such environment, Samuel (the handed over child) turns out to be godly. He is not influenced by Eli's grown up sons. Samuel seemed to have followed in Eli's foot steps in terms of godliness but interestingly enough, Samuel also seemed to have followed Eli's route when it came to being in a fatherly role. Samuel's sons also did not walk in the ways of the LORD and they too perverted justice, to an extent that people came and asked for a king, as Samuel was now getting old and his sons were not forthright. (the infrastructure of the society was going to change drastically at that time for this ethnic group of people)

Samuel annoints Saul as the 1st king of Israel as per God's instruction. Saul is ordained as a king; a king who also does not heed to authorities. He was neither a good king nor a good father.

later, David too, annointed by Samuel, happens to be a godly man in many areas of his life, who started out well, but when it came to his fatherly role, he failed terribly. His daughter suffered incest at the hand of a lust driven step brother and David did nothing. His sons were not living right and David is not able to restrain them nor discipline them.

As thankful as we are for Proverbs, Song of songs, and Eccleciastes books, Solomon too failed to train and teach his son/s(!) the godly ways and the story goes on. Rest of the kings and prophets are a long story we still need to dig into.

This is one of the reasons, i continue to admire the parents of John the Baptist and also Mary and Joseph.
no1. This is God's story and God allows us to live for him. 2. When we sin, we are responsible for the sins we commit. 3. We will still be judged by God for our parental role and are accountable to God who puts children in our care. 4. It is important that we teach, train up, discipline the next generation and impart godly values. 5. introspect and see where do we fail as parents? what are we compromising, and what inauthenticity our children see in us that they do not want to follow the Lord?  6. humble ourselves before God and ask his help like samson's parents did, in how are we to raise these children? though samson didnt turn out to be moral in his living, God used his life to bring about the purposes that He had in mind. How blessed samson's life would have been had he chosen to live morally above his own weak human desires and learnt self control? but that is samson's choice. Parents job today is more challenging and we need to take it seriously. We must honor God more than other things and people and if and when required, rebuke, train and teach our kids godly ways despite of what the culture tries to imply, impose, mock and make us to do. Jesus said, "if you honor others, even your own family more than me, you are not worthy of me" even when this is used so many times out of context to suit the leaving of children and famliies to make mission field another career opportunity at times, i see this verse more so in line with what God told Eli, that we are not to honor our children or parents or spouses or other family members more than God, that means, when they are not walking in God's ways, or when they dont pursue righteousness, we are not to enable them in the name of 'loving' and accepting' while abusing 'grace'. Love means discipline, correct, instruct, admonish, nurture.
 
Let us encourage one another to live godly lives and be good role models. Given in our care the lives of these precious souls, teaching the word of truth, let us be good role models. 
 
Copyrights by Kalpana Christian Sharma (Mrs.)

Sunday, September 4, 2011

samson and lessons from his life

I have been reading thru the book of Judges and am on 13 to 16 chapters on the birth of Samson. oh my! what can i say. to start with, his father and mom's attitude and humility warmed my heart. Their childlessness and then when she comes to know that she will have conceive a child, with humility to ask the angel of the Lord, how are we to raise this child? hum....what a question, if every parent who is expecting a child were to take this seriously what kind of parents shall we all be?

I have heard and seen many parents over the years want to make their children what they want or would dictate in no uncertain terms what they want their children to do but we see a different picture here, the parents are humble and wanting to know how the Lord wants them to raise this child?

samson was to begin delivering his people from the hands of the philistines. His mother was to be careful in her eating and drinking habits and samson's hair was not to be cut at all as he was going to be set apart for the LORD right from his birth. that is where his strength was going to be for God's glory and for God's purposes.

It is sad to see from samson's poor choices and lusting after women and also from who were not really a marriage material girls that one can feel disheartened as to where did the parents go wrong. Did they let him learn to brag along the way? perhaps? is it possible that in some areas he was not corrected being the only child, did they spoil him in some ways? he was rude at times and at times seemed over confident. i am tempted to think the parents were perhaps not wrong, and did their part but whichever way, it was samson's poor choices.

At times Samson also fails to wait on the Lord and goes on his own sinful ways. the result is evident. lets look at the 1st woman that he wanted to marry. he demands of his parents that 'go get that woman to be my wife' and even when his parents are rebuking him, he is adamant and not listening to their advice. The bible tells us that they didnot know that this was from the Lord who was waiting for: verse4 (His parents did not know that this was from the LORD, who was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines; for at that time they were ruling over Israel.)

if we go thru the story we see that there is no holy covenanted marriage involved. while samson wants to get a wife, the Lord wants to confront philistines using this occasion. Parents also dont want this marriage to take place. So, who wins? of course the LORD and parents in some way.

because, the girl is siding with her own people due to fear; coxing him every day so to reveal the mystery of his riddle, keeps nagging him and manipulating. it was interesting to read that for 7 days of her own wedding feast, she was crying every day and made life miserable, that of hers and that of samson. what a wedding preparation! no blessing of the Lord is seen. also, samson does not seem to be trusting these women because at 1st he is refusing to tell her the answer to the riddle, and says to her, “I haven’t even explained it to my father or mother,” he replied, “so why should I explain it to you?”

neither samson nor the woman seem to be prepared for a holy marriage institution and is it any wonder no marriage takes place? it was not meant to be!

after he explains the riddles she goes and tells her people and samson now knows. he calls her, his heifer! and strikes 30 men down. He is angry and as a result, the father decides to give the daughter as a wife to his friend.

Samson returns with a hope to see 'his wife' and the father explains she is given away. now father is offering the younger more attractive girl. but again marriage is not in the view and samson retaliates with burning the farms and in return the philistines are burning the father and the daughter. Now Samson's anger is even fierce and he kills them as well as other 1000 of them. God's purposes stand firm thru and thru whether his marriage plans are working out or not.

The bible says honor your father and your mother that it may go well with you and that you will live long in the land. neither of this happens in samson's case, 1st because God is in control and second, samson chose not to honor the parents as we read.

20 years samson rules. then we read that he goes to a prostitute to spend a night with her. hum! samson is weak but God is using this opportunity and allows samson to destroy some more of the enemies.

now the real trouble comes in. there is delilah, with whom samson falls in love. the fall of samson's life has started. This woman is no different than the prostitute and no different than the 1st philistine woman that he wanted to marry. She too is siding with her people and betraying samson over and over again. the same game is played by delilah and over and over again, she is using the same words and samson is playing the game. manipulations are seen day in and day out and nagging is on and we see finally samson gives in. he is so fallen that he is not able to rise above to see the reality. as a result he reveals the secret and he is now betrayed thoroughly not only that he is actually now ruthlessly blind, without hair and thus without strength, but the worse thing is he is without the Lord. The Spirit of the Lord has now left him. That is worse state for anyone.

Once a strong man now he is in shackles grinding grains not to forget the mockery he had to face. yet we see, God being merciful and his hair begins to grow. i bet samson is now repentant. we read samson is now praying the Lord's will, to ask for strength to destroy the enemies with one blow, infact he is now willing to die and not live, he really has been thru a lot of thinking while in shackles and grinding without eyes. Does God answer? of course, this prayer is in line with his will, his initial will that was foretold to his parents before his birth.

The Bible says he killed more people when he died than when he was alive. again, it was not samson's strength but God's strength. In his weakness, God used him to do a greater work. if only samson had chosen to obey the Lord and his parents thru and thru, his life would have been a blessed one.

but there are lessons also for us to learn as well. 1. let us ask the Lord how are we to raise our kids and raise them well in every area of their lives. 2nd we must realize that our talents and gifts are not for our own selfish use. 3rd, when we mess with our lives, we will suffer as a result of our poor choices but God's purposes still stand and come thru. 4th, for the young people who develop liking for opposite gender, ask, is it God's will for marriage? is there a marriage blessed by God, or does God want me to learn what am i here for in this to accomplish His divine will, is this an opportunity for me to let God be glorified or am i going to insist my own way? am i a blessing? 5th, once beaten twice! be careful! ask the Lord to protect you from the manipulative people who will side with your enemies and betray you.(its the people we love that betray our faith) 6th, commit to living a holy and pure lives. 7th, when we mess up, we will suffer but when we turn around and cry out, God truly hears us and in our weakness he gives us victory, bigger than when we were too much full of ourselves. 8th, we must humble and submit to God. 9. every temptation is an opportunity to say no to it and overcome with God's help. 10. we must remember we are here to do God's work as per His divine will and anytime our soul can be required of us, how shall we answer him, the way we lived?

(the Bible verses are taken from the NIV Bible.)

Copyrighted © by kalpana christian sharma (mrs.)

Monday, August 22, 2011

death, life and every moment

Death and life are in God's hands and so is every moment of our lives. He controls the very breath we breathe as per His divine will. Instead of God at our bidding, its the other way around, we are at His bidding...

Copyrighted by KC kalpna Sharma (Mrs.)

baking and cooking...famous black forest cake, french silk pie and some spicy Indian dishes.

Black forest cake





French silk pie



Double receipe black forest cake

Indian wheat thin flat bread called Chapati!

mint, cilantro, coconute chutney with hot spicy chillies

chinese chicken

Guacamole dip



Kenyan-Indian Kachumbari (hot spicy salsa)

Kenyan-Indian Kachumbari (hot spicy salsa)



Indian sweet dish of Halwa made of green fresh gourd


Indian sweet dish of Carrot Halwa...

famous casual Saturday dish - Bateta Pau-va..POHA.(spiced up Potato with flaked rice) 


This special cake was made by my husband for my surprise 1st birthday after my marriage in 1992


very hot blazing flavor chicken and onions, Bharat has his hands in this, he poured the blazin' souce little too much...but kids love it...with lots of cold water to sip with it of course!!!



our favourite green lentils soup (daal) and pickled spice with plain rice


Thursday, July 28, 2011

Parents of John the Baptist - my role models.

John the Baptist happens to be one of my favorite characters in the Bible; i am copying the text from NIV below that shows the events concerning the foretelling the birth of John.

i honor his parents equally. Zechariah and Elizabeth. When i look at the role of his parents it is humbling, for all of us as parents to learn. They were righteous in the sight of God, as i have underlined below. they followed all the commands and decrees of God and were blameless. they didnt try to help God out in any way like Abe and Sarah did many many years ago nor did they let their son loose like Samson, even though his parents were good, godly and sought the LORD how to raise Samson. Somewhere along the way, Samson lost his sight and his vision.  But John's parents, Zechariah and Elizabeth; their faith and trust in God even at the old age is par excellence.

God in HIS own time, said, Zechariah, "your prayer" has been heard, for all those years, One God, one man, one wife, and one prayer!!!!! and not only for Zech and Liz's joy but John was to bring joy to the entire kingdom of God; be a forerunner for Christ, so God fulfills his promise and answers our prayers in his wise time; we need to learn to be patient. He answers prayers which benefit to the entire human race and eternity. All we need to do is be still like Zech and Liz were before the LORD and trust God; and even if God chose not to bless them sooner with a child, they still didnt try worldly ways for their 'comfort' or their desires to be fulfilled. to me this speaks volumes. Either God will give us a child or we will die childless. They chose no other option. That is the truth and faith in God!

Bible clearly says, They were childless because Elizabeth was not able to conceive. here i honor Zechariah. He didnt take another wife or a concubine, perhaps he didnt even think, as the bible says, they were blameless and righteous in the sight of God, (who searches our hearts and intent, who knows what others dont know) Nor do they think of adoption, now, dont get me wrong, adoption in and of itself is not wrong, if God calls one for it that is between them and God, but in this case they were trusting God to bless them with a child even after it was 'too late' too late meaning as per the worldly standards. God is the God of impossibilities and above any human system.

Zechariah loves his wife and honors her to be his wife for better or for worse with child or without child till death do them apart. Married people what do we learn here, about loyalty, faithfulness and choosing to love and stay in the marriage? or honor the God blessed and God ordained marriage! not adding any extention to it nor cutting the chords.

Do we at times, try to see if we can twist God's arm to answer our prayers our way in our time, like i want what i want and i want it now? then our concept of God is like a Ginnie who answers our requests and who is at our service. While God has asked us to ask anything in line with his will, we need to also submit to what he wants in our lives and at his time. So, praying and fasting helps us to humble before God and adjust to his timings rather than demanding our way with him. We need to ask for grace to hold on and trust Him.

We also need to remember that our job description has been laid out for us before we are born. We need to just report for duty. check this out.

Angel told Zechariah that his son that Elizabeth will bore will be a delight and a joy to you and many will rejoice because of his birth, (not just a couple but many) and will be great in the sight of God. Oh! what a wonderful promise! He will live a godly life and make good choices, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit before his birth. He was further told, john will bring back many of the people of Israel to the Lord their God.  And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”

John's job apart from being a forerunner of Christ, was to bring back many people to their God, be a forerunner in the spirit and power of Elijah and turn the hearts of parents to their children and children's heart to their parents.(reconciliation)

Parents, are we listening? where are the parents hearts' these days? if their hearts are in making money, or wordly passion is it any wonder that when children dont walk in the ways of the LORD, parents' hearts are not to their children? and children's hearts to their parents. This speaks a great relationship of John with his parents. he would have to see his parents hearts to him and him as obedient to them.

It was a shock to Zechariah that he almost was in disbelief. how can this be? i am old and so is my wife! He had perhaps accepted and adjusted to being empty nested for life and then just when we are at the end of ourselves God does the inconceivable and brings life into it. let us not be in disbelief then. Because he didnt trust God at that time, he was made mute until John's birth. Gabriel was sent to speak to Zech. Gabriel was being obedient to God's call. Zechariah goes home and later on we are told Elizabeth stayed in seclusion as she was 5 months pregnant. "The LORD has done this for me" Elizabeth was a woman of God, she gave glory to God, infact, she knew 1st about Mary's 1st and holy miraculous pregnancy. we can see these couple walked close to God and not only they had relationship with God but they fellowshipped with him and God told them the stuff that was to happen.

May we all desire to be the spouses, and parents that Zechariah and Elizabeth were! boy! that must not have been easy to live in the society that put children as a 'thing to gain and show off', to have been married young and live upto be old, very old, and still continue being righteous in God's eyes as not to complain or be bitter. The purity, loyalty and dedicaiton to God and to each other that this couple displays is excellent. is it any wonder God chose them to nurture, bless and raise John who would be that loyal and submitted to God and humble to Christ, and at one point in life so bold as to the point of being beheaded for standing up for righteous holy living?

Are we willing for our children to be that bold, fearless and speak up for God. Are we raising them meek and fearless? walking in the ways that please God?

May this bless you as you ponder the character of Zechariah, Elizabeth and John and let God speak. in His peace and faithfulness, kalpna

Copyright at Kalpana Sharma (Mrs.)

The Birth of John the Baptist Foretold : Luke 1: 5 onwards (NIV version) In the time of Herod king of Judea there was a priest named Zechariah, who belonged to the priestly division of Abijah; his wife Elizabeth was also a descendant of Aaron. 6 Both of them were righteous in the sight of God, observing all the Lord’s commands and decrees blamelessly. 7 But they were childless because Elizabeth was not able to conceive, and they were both very old. 8 Once when Zechariah’s division was on duty and he was serving as priest before God, 9 he was chosen by lot, according to the custom of the priesthood, to go into the temple of the Lord and burn incense. 10 And when the time for the burning of incense came, all the assembled worshipers were praying outside. 11 Then an angel of the Lord appeared to him, standing at the right side of the altar of incense. 12 When Zechariah saw him, he was startled and was gripped with fear. 13 But the angel said to him: “Do not be afraid, Zechariah; your prayer has been heard. Your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you are to call him John. 14 He will be a joy and delight to you, and many will rejoice because of his birth, 15 for he will be great in the sight of the Lord. He is never to take wine or other fermented drink, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit even before he is born. 16 He will bring back many of the people of Israel to the Lord their God. 17 And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.” 18 Zechariah asked the angel, “How can I be sure of this? I am an old man and my wife is well along in years.” 19 The angel said to him, “I am Gabriel. I stand in the presence of God, and I have been sent to speak to you and to tell you this good news. 20 And now you will be silent and not able to speak until the day this happens, because you did not believe my words, which will come true at their appointed time.” 21 Meanwhile, the people were waiting for Zechariah and wondering why he stayed so long in the temple. 22 When he came out, he could not speak to them. They realized he had seen a vision in the temple, for he kept making signs to them but remained unable to speak. 23 When his time of service was completed, he returned home. 24 After this his wife Elizabeth became pregnant and for five months remained in seclusion. 25 “The Lord has done this for me,” she said. “In these days he has shown his favor and taken away my disgrace among the people.”

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Handmade Crafts


this family heirloom was made especially for our precious daughter Narita after her birth.

This cute one was made for our cutie, Stuti, as I was execting her.
this is called a Muiko, a wooden spoon in Swahili language, we have used home made dough to fashion little vegetables and glue them on and colored and varanished them. Did this with a precious friend in Kenya.

This is a baby basket with artificial flowers inserted in an empty Icecream plastic can.

This is a miniature grocery shop version of an indian grocery of many different lentiles and nuts placed in sacs.

the different styles of pastas are glued on a wooden chopping board and varnished. we added a colored wheat strands in a sac and a wooden spoon too. perfect to hang in the kitchen.




this is a jewelery box, made of metal structure and organza material with loads of beads and ribbons glued on to it.


and these are bread or food covers

too good to call it a trash can, so we stored girls' unused pampes in it.

this is a tissue box container.
i made this in the 1980 while in college. its a flower pot hanger, in India they would use it to put yoghurt pot and hang it in the home.


This is a soap basket, made with covering a lux soap and artificial flowers and a ribbon covered wire for a handle.
strawberries and arrangements colored and arrange together.

this is a soap swan, again soap covered with loads of feathers and artificial flowers and lace. u can mould the beak from handmade dough.
the furry scarves in all colors and sizes, this is my winter activity.

the two baby sweaters made just for fun, one is crocheted and one is knitted

these are crocheted baby booties and a cap


All images  have copyrights to http://www.kcswritings.blogspot.com/  / Kalpana Christian Sharma.

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